Women love to feel good about themselves. In fact many will go to great lengths to satisfy that desire. But, the majority will not be satisfied, at least not fully. In fact, they often have high standards that can only be satisfied by seeking the approval of others.
The truth of the matter is that we live in a materialistic world, one in which everything is seemingly dependent on what you are wearing, or what you own, and more specifically whether other people value those things, along with you and your time in general. But thinking in this way will only lower your self-esteem in the long run.
What can you do to assure that you never again experience the disastrous consequences of low self-esteem? Well for one thing, distance yourself from certain people and more specifically, their opinions. Wanting to look good and have nice things is not bad on its own. It is only when focusing on those things is driven by the need to be liked or respected by other people who really don’t matter in the grand scheme of things can your self-esteem suffer.
In order to distance yourself from others, you need to learn to be self-reliant. So many women I know for example are so obsessed with having a boyfriend or husband, regardless of how good these men are for them. We don’t need men to take us out to dinner, or to buy us nice things. Are men even really that necessary? Even when it comes to having sex, most men don’t even bother with the clitoris anyway, which as all women know is a huge mistake on their part.
Unless a particular man truly “completes you”, there is no reason to force a man into your life. And the same goes for friends who provide no real value to your life (or worse, who make your life worse). As soon as you accept that reality, and learn to live independently, not only will your self-esteem improve, but you will come to realize your own self-worth. In other words, you’ll realize that you are a beautiful and awesome person that anyone would be lucky to have in their lives.d
Another way to gain genuine self-worth is through the selection of clothing styles that suit your own unique personality.
No matter how you have preferred to dress for occasions in the past, it is time to stop being so concerned about what others will think of your fashion choices and instead to start dressing for yourself.
Remember not to let others dictate how to dress, even if they seemingly have your best interests at heart. You are an adult and know how to dress, and so letting others make decisions for you will only lessen your self-worth over time.
Now listening to opinions and even acknowledging outright criticism are things that everyone should take on willingly. But the final decisions for what you wear, not to mention everything else in your life should be yours to make, and yours to make alone.
In the end, it all comes down to living not just a great life, but YOUR great life. If you are unable to do things your way, every single day, then you are likely relying on the opinions of others way too much, and need to make a change in your lifestyle. Rely on yourself first and foremost, and make decisions that are in your best interest, and that you feel are the best decisions to make. If you live in this way, over time not only will you realize your own self-worth, but it will also be readily apparent through an amazing confidence that makes you all the more beautiful and radiant!